Things I've learned, or things I believe, that make life easier when kept in mind:
- Never expect a guy to change. If you're not happy with him the way he is, you'll never be happy with him. He won't change, and it's unfair to expect him to. Get used to this and accept it, or move on, while you still have time to decide.
- There is always a silver lining, if you make one. Focusing on what's positive instead of what's negative helps make life less stressful.
- Different is good. There's a definitely a line between different, and just plain weird.
- Listen to your instincts. You have them for a reason. They're almost always right. And you can never learn to trust them if you don't start trying at some point!
Things I've learned about Me that help me understand myself:
- I am different. And not just different, just like everybody else... who always somehow end up being exactly the same, in trying to be different. I don't try to be, I just am. It doesn't jive with everyone and I prefer it that way.
- I prefer smaller more personal groups of friends rather than large social groups.
- Always keep these in the medicine cabinet, and I'll be good to go: advil, neosporin, eyedrops, and lots of bandaids.
- Never put a perm in my hair again.
- Always do things, or at least make a note, when I'm thinking about it. Later I'll be far too busy or distracted or will have moved on to something else and won't remember!
Friday, February 18, 2005
Tuesday, January 25, 2005
What kind of person are you?
What kind of person are you?
Drive, or be driven?
Grab hold of the reigns and take control, or let the horse drag you along?
I guess you get the point already. But can you really compare these examples to your life, or to you as a person in your everyday way of dealing with life and its situations? Or how about your overall life, and the direction in which it is heading? I used to be the kind of person who just lived life, taking whatever may come. When I grew up, I realized that life doesn't come to you. You have to go and get it.
If you want something... really, really want something... you have to set your goals on it and decide what steps lie between you and your goal, and take them, one at a time. Noone can do it for you, and you will probably never accomplish that goal unless you keep it in sights.
You have to be happy with you before anyone else can ever be expected to be. You can easily have control and direction, confidence and ... well, I suppose just self-esteem in general, if you just make a decided effort. You can do all of these things without arrogence, spite, or other undesirable personal traits. Clarity of mind and spirit can leave you refreshed and open to new ways of thinking and understanding yourself and the world around you. Even if you don't believe in Karma in some shape, form, or fashion, it is a good practice to live by: treat others as you yourself would like to be treated, but don't ever let anyone take advantage of you.
Today's soapbox rant was brought to you by... no particular reason!
Drive, or be driven?
Grab hold of the reigns and take control, or let the horse drag you along?
I guess you get the point already. But can you really compare these examples to your life, or to you as a person in your everyday way of dealing with life and its situations? Or how about your overall life, and the direction in which it is heading? I used to be the kind of person who just lived life, taking whatever may come. When I grew up, I realized that life doesn't come to you. You have to go and get it.
If you want something... really, really want something... you have to set your goals on it and decide what steps lie between you and your goal, and take them, one at a time. Noone can do it for you, and you will probably never accomplish that goal unless you keep it in sights.
You have to be happy with you before anyone else can ever be expected to be. You can easily have control and direction, confidence and ... well, I suppose just self-esteem in general, if you just make a decided effort. You can do all of these things without arrogence, spite, or other undesirable personal traits. Clarity of mind and spirit can leave you refreshed and open to new ways of thinking and understanding yourself and the world around you. Even if you don't believe in Karma in some shape, form, or fashion, it is a good practice to live by: treat others as you yourself would like to be treated, but don't ever let anyone take advantage of you.
Today's soapbox rant was brought to you by... no particular reason!
Thursday, February 05, 2004
Observation of the day
"Before I can be more than what I am I must first know what I am."
I strive to be more than that which I've been handed. Not because what I've been handed is not good, but because I want to better myself and not fall under to the ways of thinking of my upbringing, simply because they are all I know. I want to learn, experience, and truly know for myself that the ideals and practices that I call mine are mine because they ARE mine, not because my parents or anyone else gave them to me. I refuse to be a common "Sheep" and follow the rest of the herd blindly.
I am not bitter in this quest. Sometimes others in my life may have become bitter as they realize I will stand up and be my own person, and not bend to their will (such as my father, and my ex), but this will not stop me. I will not be hateful, mean, or vengeful against people such as these. It really pains me to see youth react to this same situation in such ways. They become rude, crude, and just plain selfish. I am thankful that I did not boldly make this move during my youth, but instead have slowly developed my ideals and have meekly let them be known throughout my life as I have grown up. It may have delayed the inevitable in doing what we all must do, standing up and facing our parents when/if they don't like the way we do something. But maybe at least it gave us the chance to bond better than we could have under other circumstances, and it gave them time to accept changes as I have grown up.
I tried to be as gentle with them in this process as possible and they have chosen not to grow, change, or accept yet, but it's not my fault if they don't and I refuse to be held down by it. I now am the better person for learning, understanding, changing, and doing what is best for me. Sadly, you can offer this idea to others but you can't force them to accept it.
They'll get there eventually. They always do.
I strive to be more than that which I've been handed. Not because what I've been handed is not good, but because I want to better myself and not fall under to the ways of thinking of my upbringing, simply because they are all I know. I want to learn, experience, and truly know for myself that the ideals and practices that I call mine are mine because they ARE mine, not because my parents or anyone else gave them to me. I refuse to be a common "Sheep" and follow the rest of the herd blindly.
I am not bitter in this quest. Sometimes others in my life may have become bitter as they realize I will stand up and be my own person, and not bend to their will (such as my father, and my ex), but this will not stop me. I will not be hateful, mean, or vengeful against people such as these. It really pains me to see youth react to this same situation in such ways. They become rude, crude, and just plain selfish. I am thankful that I did not boldly make this move during my youth, but instead have slowly developed my ideals and have meekly let them be known throughout my life as I have grown up. It may have delayed the inevitable in doing what we all must do, standing up and facing our parents when/if they don't like the way we do something. But maybe at least it gave us the chance to bond better than we could have under other circumstances, and it gave them time to accept changes as I have grown up.
I tried to be as gentle with them in this process as possible and they have chosen not to grow, change, or accept yet, but it's not my fault if they don't and I refuse to be held down by it. I now am the better person for learning, understanding, changing, and doing what is best for me. Sadly, you can offer this idea to others but you can't force them to accept it.
They'll get there eventually. They always do.
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